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21 April, 2009

Féminité

"Je ne veux pas être celle qui mène. Je refuse d'être le chef. Je veux vivre dans tout le mystère et la richesse de ma féminité. Je veux un homme qui se couche sur moi, toujours sur moi. Sa volonté, son plaisir, son désir, sa vie, son travail, sa sexualité : voilà la pierre de touche, le levier de commande, mon pivot. Ca m'est égal de travailler, de tenir les rênes sur le plan artistique et intellectuel ; mais comme femme, oh ! mon Dieu, comme femme je veux être dominée. Je me moque que l'on me dise de compter sur moi-même, de ne m'accrocher à personne - tout cela, j'en suis capable - mais je veux être poursuivie, baisée, possédée par la volonté d'un homme, à son heure et selon ses ordres"
-Anaïs Nin
*image courtesy of Le Love
(my translation)
"I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femininity. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality; here is the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I want to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding."
I'm all for women's rights and consider myself a strong, independent, intellectual human being. But, as Anais Nin said, when it comes to truly being a woman, all layers are stripped away. I just want to indulge in my femininity and let a man's embrace, his being, devour me whole. When I put aside all control, when I let go of all my "rights" and succumb to the most basic instinct--that of being pursued, of being wanted--that is when I truly feel like a woman. There's something feral, carnal, passionate and inherently natural about letting go and enjoying the age old ritual of a man pursuing a woman.

5 comments:

katerinafiore said...

Thanks for this post, you just inspired me to write about this same subject. And thanks for reminding me on how a woman should feel when in love or not. :)

Tina said...

In Tango (at least in Tango in Buenos Aires), that's what we call "entrega". In tango I like to be the woman and I like to entregarme.

204 said...

I wish more men UNDERSTOOD this.

Ive given up, until one pursues me so aggressively that I start to sweat. And he better be as good looking as the one I had to pursue. (is that so much to ask for?)

Scribbler said...

I swear this is why women confuse the hell out of me. Will someone please explain to me where the fineline is between being forward and being a jerk, being persistent and being a stalker?

Ø said...

Et si un homme veut se sentir désiré, veut qu'une femme lui court après ? En fait, ce qu'Anaïs Nin dit ici, veut dire que l'homme n'a pas le droit de vouloir se sentir désiré en soi, qu'il doit démontrer qu'il mérite l'amour d'une femme. Pourquoi est-ce que les hommes ne sont pas dignes d'amour en soi ?

Si on veut quelque chose, je pense qu'on la poursuivra.