26 April, 2012

French Wedding

I stumbled upon this video yesterday, on Mariel's blog, and have watched it at least fifteen times since...and will probably watch it another fifteen times by the end of the week.

It makes me so excited for our wedding (which, in two months, will only be one year away!!), especially now that we've officially booked the venue and our photographer. We'll be getting married June 2013 in a chateau outside Paris. I can hardly believe it!

This video gives me goosebumps, every time. Unfortunately the videographer they used charges upwards of $10,000 for a mere 6 minute clip.

Anyone have suggestions for a videographer in Paris? :)

23 April, 2012

I FELL for a boy who does:

Every day, I'm thankful that I have a MAN who does all the above, and more. Before I fell in love with my fiance, I didn't think it was possible to be 100% comfortable with a person - not only physically (walking around with no makeup, sweats, etc....though I try not to do it often!), but also emotionally. In past relationships, I was always afraid to get angry, to speak my mind, or to say something that might start an argument, for fear that it would change the dynamic of our relationship.

Then I learned there is nothing I could do or say that would ever change the way my love and I feel about each other.

And that is an amazing thing, for which I am eternally grateful.

Happy Monday!

02 April, 2012

On Being Too Busy


Joanna of A Cup of Jo published an insightful post last week in which she quoted from this Wall Street Journal Article which discusses the concept of "being busy". 

Though some of you may have already read this, I'm sharing this again because the concept of managing time is one which I'm sure we could all use a little insight on. 

Change your language. Instead of saying "I don't have time" try saying "it's not a priority," and see how that feels. Often, that's a perfectly adequate explanation. I have time to iron my sheets, I just don't want to. But other things are harder. Try it: "I'm not going to edit your résumé, sweetie, because it's not a priority." "I don't go to the doctor because my health is not a priority." If these phrases don't sit well, that's the point. Changing our language reminds us that time is a choice. If we don't like how we're spending an hour, we can choose differently.

This year has been a particularly busy one - from intense research tasks, to formulating my thesis proposal, to "wifely" duties around the home, to travel on a monthly basis (which I would NEVER complain about) - many things in my life have fallen to the wayside, and they are important things. Keeping in touch with friends and relatives abroad, writing in my journal (or blogging for that matter), organizational tasks which have been on my "to-do" list for ages, projects started and left undone. 

I've noticed I frequently complain about how busy I am, or how stressed, how overwhelmed. And while I truly AM busy and overwhelmed, giving in to these feelings and using them as an excuse to neglect other tasks is only detrimental. 

Rather than prioritizing everything, I've simply focused on the largest tasks and let most everything else fall to the wayside, using "I'm too busy" as an excuse. 

Being "busy" and "starved for time" is a way to show we matter. Put another way, it makes us feel important. But if you think about it, complaining about a lengthy to-do list is not only boring, it's a sad hook for one's self-esteem. Owning up to how we spend our hours gives us more control of our time, and ultimately, of our lives.

Though I don't plan on making a "time log", as the article suggests, I will be honest with myself about where my time is going, and I will change my language to reflect what I REALLY can or cannot handle.  Though, naturally, some things in life will take priority at others during various stages, I don't want to forget the significance of those things, nor to erase them from my agenda because of a false sense of time. 

Yes, I am busy. But I am not too busy.